“So, I say to you, forget about the fast lane. If you really want to fly, just harness your power to your passion. Honor your calling. Everybody has one. Trust your heart and success will come to you.” —Oprah Winfrey
I grew up telling my parents that I want to be a doctor. I moved to Canada and flash-forward to now I am in my last undergrad semester majoring in Biology. It is precisely around this time I get questions such as; what are you doing after graduation? When are you starting your masters program? When are you starting medical school? Have you started your application for masters? Have you applied to full-time jobs yet? It goes on and on and on. And even though I know that people who ask me those questions ask them because they really care, all that those questions do to me is scream GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER AND FIGURE IT ALL OUT ALREADY to my face.
It can be overwhelming sometimes when you grew up in an environment that taught you or made you believe that life is a straight line (kindergarten- primary school- high school- Degree-Masters- Full-time job- Get married- Kids – Retire- Die) and I am not saying it’s a wrong way of thinking because parents just want to feel that their 20 year old succeeds and be secure job wise, money wise and life wise but it can sometimes also mean that if they are not following that straight line then they are a mess , a failure, not doing their best, not doing what’s ‘right’ , not making their parents proud …. But when is it ever a straight line? With time I’ve come to realize that perhaps it is only normal if it’s a messy line.
While I am extremely lucky that my parents have always trusted me with my decisions in regards to school and work and knowing what is best for me, I know some people feel bad and do what they think they’re supposed to do as opposed to what they really want to do. If you ask me; most of the time I’m just taking it day by day, going with the flow slowly but surely. All I know though is I will do and go for what I really want to do no matter what.
So what am I doing after graduation?
Well, I’m considering 2 options:
Get a full-time job somewhere. Do my best. Make mistakes. Learn, learn & learn. Go with the flow and conclude if it is something I want to do for a long time. If not, I’ll at least know what I don’t want.
Just take a break and travel for a bit. Volunteer abroad. Help people. Work abroad. Learn about different cultures. Work with people from different background and different work ethics. Learn, learn & learn. Discover what I actually want. Work here for a bit and see how it goes. I guess it’s about not being afraid of changes.
And maybe if I just go with the flow, it won’t even turn out like any of the above options and I know that’s okay too.
Or maybe , I just don’t graduate this semester because I screw up my Statistics course which I took as an elective FYI and all the thought-process put into the after-graduation period was for nothing. But nah, let’s be optimistic :D.